This is how you can find the perfect gift, even if you're "bad at giving gifts".
You're sitting in front of an empty shopping cart, thinking, "I have no idea what to give as a gift." Sound familiar? Many people believe they're "bad at giving gifts"—in reality, they usually just lack a simple structure. In this post, I'll show you step by step how to find a gift that will truly be appreciated.
Step 1: Truly understand the person
Before you think about products, ask yourself a few questions about the person:
- What do you enjoy doing in your everyday life? (Hobbies, interests, style)
- Is he/she more practically minded or romantically dreamy?
- Does she/he like decorations, jewelry, experiences – or all three?
Feel free to write down 3-5 keywords.
This list is your foundation – it prevents you from ending up buying "just anything from Amazon".
This list is your foundation – it prevents you from ending up buying "just anything from Amazon".
Step 2: Clearly define the occasion
Not every occasion requires the same level of gift.
Ask yourself:
- Is it a "big" occasion? (Anniversary, Valentine's Day, milestone birthday, Christmas)
- Or perhaps a small gesture in between? ("Just because," a small thank you, reconciliation)
The bigger the occasion, the more worthwhile a gift is that:
- longer stays
- It looks high-quality
- and is deliberately staged (e.g. with a card, a special moment).
Step 3: What feeling do you want to evoke?
Instead of asking yourself, "What should I buy?", ask yourself:
- Should the gift be moving?
- Is it meant to be a surprise?
- Is it meant to show: "I'm serious about you"?
- Or simply bring a smile to someone's face?
Examples:
- Emotion: Personal words, memories, something lasting (e.g., a rose box with a letter).
- Surprise: An unexpected experience, a hidden gift in a box.
- “I mean it”: A high-quality, durable gift with symbolism.
Knowing the desired feeling makes the selection much easier.
Step 4: Deriving gift ideas – systematically
Now you combine the answers from steps 1–3.
A simple scheme:
- person (e.g. romantic, loves decoration, likes roses)
- Occasion (e.g. anniversary)
- Feeling (e.g., emotion + "I mean it")
This results in, for example:
- A shared evening + personal letter
- A high-quality rose box that remains visible in everyday life.
- A small piece of jewelry, hidden in special packaging
Important: You don't need ten ideas. Two to three good options are enough – then choose the one that best suits your budget and the occasion.
Step 5: Planning the presentation
Many people underestimate how important the way a gift is presented. Even a simple gift has a special impact when the presentation is right.
Pay attention to:
- Time: Not in passing, but in a quiet moment.
- Vicinity: Candles, music, a beautifully set table, or a walk.
- Words: One or two honest sentences explaining why you chose this particular gift.
An example:
- You don't just hand over a rose jewelry box in its cardboard box, but place it on the table, perhaps with a card next to it.
- Upon opening the door, your counterpart discovers the roses – and in the compartment, a small letter or piece of jewelry.
This is how "just a box" becomes a real moment.
Mini-Workbook: 5 questions you can answer before buying
Take 2-3 minutes and answer these questions (preferably in writing):
- What are 3 things this person loves?
- What occasion is coming up – and how important is it on a scale of 1–10?
- What feeling should the gift evoke?
- Should the gift rather practical , symbolic or both be?
- Where and how do you want to present the gift?
Once you have answered these questions, you will realize:
You're not "bad at giving gifts" at all – you just haven't had a clear guideline until now.
You're not "bad at giving gifts" at all – you just haven't had a clear guideline until now.
How a rose jewelry box makes gift-giving easier
Especially if you're unsure, a gift that covers many points at once can help:
- romantic
- high-quality
- practical
- and easy to stage
The Eternal Roses Gift Box Classic from Amorlune:
- Contains long-lasting artificial roses in a real-touch design that look like real roses but do not wilt.
- It has a hidden jewelry compartment where you can place a letter, jewelry, or small mementos.
- and can be presented particularly nicely thanks to its rotating function.
With this you have:
- a decorative, romantic gift,
- packaging for something personal (words, jewelry, memories),
- and a clear "wow" moment upon opening.
Conclusion: Anyone can give gifts – with the right system.
You're only "bad at giving gifts" if you go without a plan.
If you take a moment for:
If you take a moment for:
- Understanding the person
- classify occasion
- Define feeling
- Derive 2-3 suitable ideas
- Plan presentation
Your gift will automatically become more personal and meaningful.
And if you want a gift that does some of the work for you, a high-quality, romantic rose box is a great base – you just need to fill it with your personal touch.
Written by Dennis Schröder
